Couples & Relationship Therapy in Los Angeles
Heal attachment wounds and reconnect with your partner through somatic, inner child–centered therapy that supports both of your nervous systems.
Every relationship goes through rough patches.
You might be wondering, “Can we get back to the way we used to be?” or even “Is this the end of our relationship?”
Maybe you and your partner keep having the same argument over and over, or there’s a wall of silence that’s grown between you. Trust might have been broken, or life stress (work, kids, etc.) is pulling you apart. The fact that you’re here shows you care about your relationship and are willing to work on it – and that’s a big first step. Couples therapy provides a neutral space to help both partners feel heard, understood, and supported in finding solutions. Whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or long-term partners, I’m here to help you rebuild connection and communicate more effectively.
My Approach to Couples Therapy
Often, beneath the yelling or the silence, one partner might be feeling hurt or afraid of loss, and the other might be feeling rejected or not good enough. We’ll work to identify these cycles you get stuck in and practice new ways of interacting. I provide a structured yet flexible environment: each of you will get a chance to speak and be truly listened to. I might gently interrupt unhelpful patterns in session and guide you to communicate in a way that brings you closer rather than pushing you apart. I often incorporate somatic practices—like grounding techniques and breath work—to help regulate nervous system responses during tension. I may also guide each of you to speak from the calm Self rather than a reactive part, inspired by Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Over time, you can become each other’s safe haven again.
I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and attachment- based principles, which means I focus on helping you both understand the deeper feelings and needs driving your conflicts.
What We Can Work On Together
Couples and relationship therapy can address a variety of issues
Communication Breakdown
If conversations quickly turn into arguments or one of you shuts down, we’ll develop healthier communication skills. This might involve learning to express feelings without blaming, and learning to listen without immediately defending.
Growing Apart
Maybe you feel more like roommates than romantic partners. We'll explore what might be creating distance—like stress, mismatched schedules, or lack of connection—and find ways to rebuild closeness. Together, we’ll create space for reconnection, whether it’s reviving shared rituals, practicing small gestures of care, or setting aside intentional couple time.
Differences and Conflict Areas
You and your partner may have differences around parenting, money, sex, or family boundaries. Therapy helps you move from stuck conflict to understanding. Instead of turning differences into power struggles, we’ll practice healthier ways to communicate and compromise, so you can navigate challenges without losing your bond.
Trust and Infidelity
Healing from an affair or breach of trust is hard, but possible. In therapy, we navigate the painful feelings of betrayal, establish transparency, and work (if both are willing) toward forgiveness and rebuilding trust slowly over time.
Life Transitions Impact
Major life changes—such as a new baby, career shifts, moving, or illness—can disrupt a couple’s emotional rhythm. In therapy, we look at how these events are affecting you individually and as a partnership. Together, we’ll create tools to support each other, navigate stress, and adapt as a team without losing connection.
Recovering from Past Trauma
Unresolved trauma from past relationships or family dynamics can shape how we show up in love. If one or both partners bring trauma into the relationship, we make space to understand and heal those wounds. We may use a blend of couples and individual sessions to address trauma safely and collaboratively, always prioritizing consent and emotional regulation.
We slow down. We reconnect. And we build something stronger than just surviving together.
Is Couples Therapy Right for Us?
Therapy is beneficial at any stage – whether you just had a small misunderstanding that stung or you’re on the brink of separation. If there’s even a small part of both of you that wants to improve things, that’s enough to start. (If one partner absolutely refuses therapy, consider coming yourself – working on your own growth can sometimes positively shift the dynamic, and I can coach you on relationship strategies individually.) Also, couples therapy isn’t just for romantic partners; I welcome any two people in a relationship who want to work on issues – for example, adult siblings or parent and adult child pairs.
Couples often wait until problems are very severe to seek help, but you don’t have to.
Imagine
Healing wounds from past trauma that still shape how you show up in the relationship
Finding your way back to intimacy, affection, and shared joy—even if it’s been missing for a while
Supporting each other through stress, parenting, and life changes—so you feel like a team again
Improving how you communicate—even during conflict—so both of you feel heard, not blamed
Rebuilding trust after hurt or betrayal, with compassion and clear boundaries
Breaking patterns that keep you stuck (like shutdowns or blame spirals) and learning to reconnect
How Couples Therapy Works
Let’s Start Healing Together
Reach Out
Schedule a free 15-minute consult.
Whether you're dating, married, or somewhere in between, this is your time to share what's been going on in your relationship. We'll talk about what you hope to gain from couples therapy and make sure it feels like the right fit. I’ll answer any questions and guide you through what to expect in our sessions.
Build Connection & Safety
We go slow and stay curious.
Together, we’ll explore the relational patterns that keep you stuck—like blame, withdrawal, or shutdown—and begin to shift them with compassion. Using attachment-based therapy and somatic tools, we’ll create a space where both partners feel heard, safe, and supported.
Reconnect & Heal
Work through hurt, rebuild trust, and grow together.
Couples therapy offers a structured but flexible process to heal relationship wounds, improve communication, and strengthen emotional intimacy. We’ll work on expressing needs without defensiveness, navigating conflict with care, and building new ways of relating rooted in mutual respect.
FAQs
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Couples therapy is a safe space for you and your partner to slow down, feel heard, and understand the patterns that keep you stuck. I help both of you get beneath the surface of fights, shutdowns, or disconnect—so you can communicate more clearly and rebuild trust. Sometimes, it’s not about solving everything right away—it’s about learning to see and support each other differently.
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There’s no one-size-fits-all. I work with couples navigating everything from communication breakdowns and emotional distance to parenting stress, mismatched needs, or trauma that’s showing up in the relationship. Whether you’ve been together for months or decades, therapy can help you reconnect and work as a team again.
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Yes—and I know how painful that kind of rupture can be. If both of you want to heal, we can work slowly to rebuild emotional safety, process the hurt, and move toward repair. I don’t rush forgiveness or push for any outcome. Instead, we take things one step at a time, honoring your boundaries and what’s actually needed to heal.
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That’s more common than you might think. I hold space for both partners to show up with whatever they’re feeling—even if one is hesitant or unsure. We’ll talk about what’s getting in the way and explore whether therapy still feels like a step forward. And if needed, I can also support one partner individually while holding the relationship in mind.
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Not at all. It’s actually helpful to see what happens in real time, so we can gently interrupt the pattern and try something different together. I’ll slow things down, help you notice what’s happening in your nervous systems, and guide you both back into connection—so you can start to feel safe again, even in hard moments.
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I believe that many of the struggles in relationships are shaped by old wounds. Maybe one of you learned to shut down to stay safe. Maybe the other grew up needing to over-function just to be seen. My trauma-informed lens means I’ll never pathologize your reactions. Instead, we’ll look at the why—and help your nervous systems learn something new together.
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If you’re looking for a therapist who’s warm, attuned, and deeply grounded in nervous system work, we may be a great match. I often work with high-achieving, sensitive, or trauma-informed couples who want more than just surface-level tools—they want to feel truly connected, safe, and seen in their relationship.