3 Subtle Signs of Trauma You Might Be Missing (and How to Start Healing)

Trauma—often described clinically as PTSD or C-PTSD—can be difficult to recognize because every nervous system processes stress and memory differently.
While nightmares, flashbacks, and avoidance are well-known symptoms, trauma can also show up in quiet, everyday ways.
Below are three subtle signs you might not realize are trauma-related—and gentle steps you can take toward healing.

1. Somatic (Body) Symptoms

Our bodies communicate with us constantly.
In my work as a Somatic Trauma Therapist in Los Angeles, I see daily how the body stores experiences that haven’t been fully processed—often as a form of protection.

Unresolved stress may appear as recurring headaches, chronic pain, digestive issues, fatigue, or other unexplained symptoms.
Working with a Somatic Therapist can help you notice these signals and release what’s held beneath the surface.

In The Body Keeps the Score,
Bessel van der Kolk, M.D. explains how trauma lives in—and can be healed through—the body.

2. Relationship Patterns & Attachment Wounds

When trauma is present, it can be hard to build safe, consistent connections.
Some people avoid intimacy to stay in control; others attach quickly and intensely, sometimes missing red flags.

We often repeat the relational dynamics we learned in childhood—even when they hurt.
Attachment-focused therapy can help you identify these patterns, strengthen boundaries, and practice secure connection.

Recommended reading: Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller.

3. A Harsh Inner Critic & Perfectionism

If you hold yourself to impossible standards or feel like a failure when you rest, you may be hearing your trauma’s inner voice.
Perfectionism often develops from early environments where love felt conditional or safety required performing.

Recognizing this “inner critic” as a protective part—not your true self—is the first step toward compassion.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy helps you meet that part with understanding rather than shame.
Recommended reading: No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz, Ph.D.

Moving Toward Healing

These signs don’t mean something is “wrong” with you—they show that your body and mind have been working hard to keep you safe.
Healing trauma is possible when you approach yourself with curiosity and support. Learn more about Somatic Therapy for Women in Los Angeles.

Ready to move from understanding your trauma to actually feeling better? Schedule a 20-minute consultation to see how Somatic Experiencing®, EMDR, and IFS therapy can help you regulate your nervous system and rebuild trust in yourself.

What You Might Wonder About Hidden Trauma (FAQ)

How can I tell if my physical symptoms are trauma-related?

If medical tests rule out clear causes and symptoms worsen during stress, your body may be signaling unprocessed emotions.
Somatic therapy helps you explore that connection safely.

Can trauma affect relationships even if I had a “normal” childhood?

Yes. Trauma can stem from subtle emotional neglect or inconsistency—not only major events—and can shape attachment styles into adulthood.

What’s the difference between talk therapy and somatic therapy?

Talk therapy focuses on thoughts and stories; somatic therapy works directly with body sensations and nervous-system regulation to complete unfinished stress cycles.

How long does trauma healing take?

Every nervous system has its own pace. Many clients notice greater calm and connection within a few months, while deeper integration unfolds over time.